This video is the testimony of Victor Marx. God is good y’all!!! This man is another story of the healing and redemptive power of our ever faithful Savior Jesus Christ. Please take time and enjoy his story
This was given to me by Louise. Please enjoy!!! and Thank you Louise
U. S. NEWS recently stated that the distribution of porn in all the world has it’s heart in America.
I am writing this chapter in hopes that I can disseminate the lies that are distributed through pornographic material and open the eyes of you, the reader, to the dangers of even casual viewing of such material and the final outcome of morality as a result of this damaging subject matter.
First of all I want to give you a couple of statistics:
1987 more than 75 million people bought or rented XXX related material.
1992 490 million and in 1996 an astounding 665 million bought or rented XXX material. The number is no longer calculated in the United States because of the internet and the amount of free sites to view porn. Estimates and surveys today say that more than 40% of men visit a porn website daily. The percentage of women that daily view internet porn is rapidly increasing.
Society in our present day and age wants to dictate to us the views and morals of sexuality should be free to the individual. And in truth they are. Each person has the free choice to view or not to view porn. You are living in a time where the sexual moral standards are rapidly changing and the demoralization of men and women through porn is extensive.
Hollywood has jumped on the bus too. Rarely can you view a movie or television program without the interjection of sexual content. As for TV commercials, if you want to sell anything from chewing gum to food to automobiles, use sex or sexual innuendos and it will sell. We are bombarded daily, even hourly through all types of media from movies to TV to internet and social media with the sole idea that sex sells. Pop ups on your internet browser and sponsored links on your email present to you a visually appealing offer of happiness through the right person or partner. Don’t get me wrong. I am not advocating for or against dating sites. I honestly believe that legitimate, lifelong relationships can and do result from these web sites. I am, however, in favor of promoting an anti pornographic society. One where I nor my children are introduced to the ravaging mental and spiritual struggles associated with the viewing of inappropriate sexually inspired material. Whether it be in the form of what is considered today as “Prime Time Television” viewing, video games, Hollywood movies or on the cover of magazines at the checkout line of our local supermarket and convinience store. A culture where the social order is one of purity, morality, modesty and respect for others.
Pornography has given us exactly the opposite. Instead of seeing others as “created in the image of God” (Genesis 1:27) we have “changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever.” (Romans 1:25) We are created by a God who would have us “love one another” (John 13:34) instead of in “lust of the flesh” (1 John 2:16)
So… if you will allow, I would like to be transparent, truthful and real for the next couple of minutes of your time with me. I was addicted to porn. THERE, I SAID IT! My compulsion started at a very young age. Even before I really had any idea of what I was viewing. All I knew was that what was before my eyes was “Forbidden Fruit” and I was stimulated in some unexplainable way by it. As I grew older, I started to look at more illicit images and search out more fuel to arouse my obsession. Now this was all occurring in the late 70s to early 80s. We had no Internet then, so my viewing was restricted to magazines that I was now stealing from the local convenience store. At home I was abused by my Grandmother. Not sexually abused mind you. But physically and emotionally. This gave more energy to my compulsion to look at females as someone to release my aggressions on and sexually was the only way I could find. I was sort of shy and had been rejected for a few dates with girls I had crushes on, so, I returned to my own little fantasy world of porn and self-gratification. I realize now that I had become a compulsive masturbator and would indulge myself with images which I had stored in my memory at anytime I pleased. At home, in public, at work. I would find a few private minutes to oblige my infatuation and soon be back to my daily affairs. My increasing drug and alcohol habits gave more fuel to the fire and I was completely out of control.
The one thing about a porn addiction is that it can easily be concealed. It is a private fixation between you and your object of desire at the time. Or so it may seem. Physically it is as if you are just looking at an object and gratifying yourself. But there is another dimension present with us and within us that is injured and broken as we commit the lustful act. The spirit of man is joined also in the performance and takes on the sin of the flesh. And oh what a treacherous sin it is to be shackled to pornographic images that have been literally burned into your brain and haunt you even when you have resolved to repent and turn from your wicked ways.
Over and over I found myself begging God for forgiveness only to find myself once again taking just a peek at something unsuitable and soon be back in the demented dungeon of prohibited porn. I would cry tears of sorrow. I would beg for strength. And still I would return to my illicit world of fantasy. And that’s exactly what it is. A flight of the imagination taking you to a demented destination where nothing is real and untruths are the normative castle in the sky. These types of fantasy are truly damaging. Not only in our fantasy world but also to our real life relationships. We begin to seek out partners who can fulfill our improper desires. When one fails to do so we pitch them to the side and the hunt for another begins. In between partners the compulsion is fulfilled in the ever so comfortable pornographic world where fleshly desires are met at every whim. When the conquest of a new partner has been met a new and more challenging mission must be pursued. The delusion that satisfaction will be achieved pushed me deeper into my addiction.
Only when I found the life changing verses from Romans chapter 12 did I finally open my heart to the truth that God, through Jesus Christ and the power of The Holy Spirit could revive my old tired spirit and give me the peace and power I needed to overcome the adversary that had kept me bound for so many years.
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:1,2 NLT
Still when I read this it breathes life into my soul. These words have become very much alive to me and they have literally changed my life.
You see, I had trashed my mind for so many years that I didn’t know any other way to think. But God was telling me that if I would present my body to him in a spiritual service of worship and NOT conform to the world’s set of values, morals, standards and principles then HE could do the work of changing the way I think. He would renew my mind!!!
I promise you this was a process, but it was a course of action that produced in me a new way to look at women. Instead of seeing them as sexual objects, God let me see them as His creation, made in His holy image and set here for good works. God led me into more scripture from The Holy Bible to help me see clearly how we are to think and act as decent, moral and respectable men. God showed me through His word that He is a gentleman and expects me to follow His lead. I have learned modesty and integrity. I carry propriety and decency with me everywhere I go. I am becoming more and more what God has intended for me. Not that I am perfect. Oh no, not close. (Philippians 3:12) But this I do know
God has united you with Christ Jesus. For our benefit God made him to be wisdom itself. Christ made us right with God; he made us pure and holy, and he freed us from sin. 1 Corinthians 1:30
So my friend, if you share in this struggle with pornography please know that there is hope. There is a blessed expectation through Christ Jesus our Lord. We have an eternal forgiveness, redemption and salvation and we have been made pure, holy and FREED FROM SIN!!!
If you have not made the decision to make Christ Jesus the Lord over your life please do not hesitate another minute. The peace of God awaits you. The forgiveness of sins is in store for you. The assurance of God’s divine love lies before you. He is not angry with you. He is not waiting for you to change or clean up your act. He has the simple request that you come to Him just as you are and confess to Him that you understand the deprived sinful state you are in and that you are helpless without Him.
Heavenly Father, I know that I have wronged you. I have done things that are inexcusable and even things that I would think unforgivable. I have sinned in every imaginable way against you and against others as well as myself. John 3:16 says that You sent your Son to die for me, for my sins so that I would not have to take that punishment of death for my transgressions against you. Right now Father God, I accept the blood of Christ as my remission of sin. I confess to you my sins. I confess Jesus Christ as my savior and I give my heart and life to You. From this day forward I turn from my own ways and give myself to you to seek out Your perfect and Holy will for my life. Please lead me and guide me daily. Give me a newfound desire for Your Word. Open my eyes to see, my ears to hear and my heart to accept the things you have for me. In Jesus name I pray, AMEN
Welcome to God’s family. As a child of God I encourage you to seek out a Bible believing and teaching church and to find new friends that share your new found faith. My prayer for you is that you grow and mature in your walk with Christ and that you life be filled with the Love, grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ!
I’m sure most everyone knows that I have removed myself from FB for several days now. My sabbatical was very intentional. Those of you who know me well enough know that I whole heartedly believe what the Bible teaches. My life was not always this way and my lifestyle reflected that for over 30 years. Only by the grace of God, the forgiveness offered through Christ suffering and the power of the Holy Spirit which was left for those of us who believe can I survive from day to day and maintain the life that was originally intended for me. God’s plans for me never involved drugs, alcohol, illicit sex or any of the other worldly sins that I chose. My pastor, Tom McDaniels says, “What you choose chooses you.” This is SO true!
With that being said, I now choose to live a life that honors my Heavenly Father instead bringing shame and disgrace to being a Christian. Although I do try to live this life out everywhere I go, this is not about how other people perceive me. This is about integrity. What and how I act away from others view. When it’s only me and God there. Scripture tells us to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling. (Phil 2:12)
I recently had an issue with FB. I’m not going into the whole matter but I will say that it was terribly disturbing to me. It caused me to re-examine a certain part of my life in light of what God says about it. If you want to scrutinize any area of your life, pray and jump into the Bible and see what it has to say. The reason most of us don’t do this, the truth hurts. But the Bible says,
“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness” 2 Tim 3:16.
After my time off from FB and an introspective look at my life, I have decided that it is my best interest as a Christian and a man who dearly loves his wife and family to delete my FB.
I said before my FB fast that I have control over the media content that is brought into my household. My post fast view is that we should monitor and filter what media that is brought into our homes by Scripture. And as I said before, if it offends you, cut it out. If it offends God, get rid of it.
Some may think me to be too conservative. Perhaps you consider me old fashioned or even too radical. Maybe you call me a fundamentalist. I say possibly those are not bad things. I say that God has called us to be different. A peculiar people set apart for His service. A people who walk the narrow path that leads to life instead of the BROAD road that leads to destruction.
I have thoroughly enjoyed the years of feeding some of you the Bread of Life through Scripture on a daily basis. Jesus said, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” Matt 4:4 I am thankful and honored that God chose me to carry out this task. It pleases me greatly to see some of you hold tight to the Word and live it out in your lives. I’m sure God is smiling on you also! But now the narrow path Jesus spoke of is leading me away from FB.
I want to challenge some of you to take up the torch and daily post a scripture on FB so that others will receive a taste of the abundant life God promises us through Christ Jesus and His Word. Sometimes just a morsel of bread is all that is needed to rearrange someone’s life and set their feet on the right path. The seeds planted are vital to someone’s life and their spiritual nutrition. No matter how trivial you may think the scripture is that day it can prove to be life changing to someone else.
It is the same with my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It will accomplish all I want it to, and it will prosper everywhere I send it Isaiah 55:11
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In closing FB friends and family, I pray blessings over you all. And as Paul wrote to the Philippians,
Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.
Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain. Even if I am to be poured out as a drink offering upon the sacrificial offering of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all. Likewise you also should be glad and rejoice with me.
And as Moses blessed the Israelites I pray for you,
The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace
I AM A LIVING, BREATHING MIRACLE OF GOD!!! Six years ago on August 10th I made the life changing resolution to get sober. Not realizing at that time I would struggle, wrestle and even fight to stay that way. Yet I have followed through. I have persevered. I have steadily persisted in my actions and beliefs that sobriety is attainable and that with the help of my Creator I have not only found that temperance which was long-lost to me, I also have managed to regain control over my life. I have found that conquering drugs and alcohol, along with a myriad of other addictions, was not to be controlled but overcome. It’s more than just having power over the substances that once controlled my existence. It’s about rising above, conquering and triumphantly standing strong over all areas of my life. It’s about waking in the morning and thanking God Almighty that I am alive and able to serve Him. It’s about making sound decisions throughout the day. It’s about going to bed at night and once again giving thanks that I have made it through another day clean and sober. It’s about the power of God working in the course of my salvation through Jesus Christ and the authority, influence and rule of the Holy Spirit in my life. Leading and directing my paths just as the Bible promised.
My point is, I can not handle this life alone. That is a hard thing for a man to say but it’s true! We were NOT created to live this life out alone. Which is the first point of caustic logic I want to make.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
My life as a devotee to drugs and alcohol was EXACTLY the opposite of what God had created me for and the Divine plan He has for my life. When you are high all the time, from your waking moment until you shut your eyes for sleep, if that were to happen, your mind is fixated on sustaining the unrelenting cycle of dependence on substances that will never fulfill, will always provide you with failure and calamity and will destroy any expectation of being happy and content in the future. In and out of jail, an excursion to the emergency room practically dead, waking up in places only to realize that you have no idea where you are, never having money to pay your bills and little things like having no toilet paper consume the existence of an addict. Those are just the exterior things, the physical. There is also the mental anguish of failure, the depression that comes along with not being in control and the anger at one’s self that can only be released against others. Yep, addiction is a terrible vice of the Devil. And most would have you believe that once you are ensnared in this trap that you are irrevocably locked in for the rest of your life. Let me tell you that is another point of the Caustic Logic I am exposing today.
And you will know the truth, and that truth will set you free John 8:32
There is FREEDOM!!! You can experience liberty, independence, choice and free will through the simple act of just knowing the truth. You see, Caustic Logic is all lies. Caustic Logic are things we have been taught that keep us contained in solitary confinement away from the truth being ambushed at every turn and feeling worthless because we cannot break free. Caustic Logic makes you return to the very depths and places you know you should not go. It draws you to your computer in the middle of the night to look at porn. It leads you along the path of destruction of your marriage. It draws you in to arguments that divide families. Caustic Logic tells you that there is no way out of your situation and that your need to delve deeper to find some type of comfort. These are all lies and let me tell you that there is HOPE and that hope is in TRUTH!!!
So what is truth? I thought you would never ask!
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the TRUTH and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6
and when Jesus was praying He said these words
Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. John 17:17
A lie is an untruth. A falsehood or a fabrication of the truth. It is deceitful at it’s very root. Caustic Logic is the very deceit and deception that lies are based upon. Have you ever been told “once an alcoholic always an alcoholic”? Have you ever heard the saying that “I am this way or that way because my daddy was”? “I was born that way”? “I can’t help myself”? Or the biggest fib of all, “The devil made me do it”?
All these are Caustic Logic that will erode your perception of the truth. Once we hear these untruths and fall victim to believe such lies we have programmed ourself for failure. In essence, we predestined ourselves. But the Word of God, the TRUTH, says that God predestined us to be adopted into His family (Romans 8:29,30) (Ephesians 1:5 & 11). Not to be addicts and prisoners to sin. But rather be sons and daughters of the Most High and Holy God living an abundant life full of joy and peace as a result of the grace God has given us. A life filled with love for ourself and for others. A life redeemed through forgiveness. A life set apart from the world through self-control. A life that represents God through our ability to be kind, to be faithful. A life where we spread the goodness and gentleness of God to everyone we come in contact with. The life that God has called us to through salvation. A life of FREEDOM!!!
If this is the lifestyle you are searching for I urge you through the power of God and His Truth, Jesus Christ to come to terms with our Creator. Admit to him that you have been blinded by Caustic Logic and that you are truly a sinner. Confess that you can not overcome your obstacles of sin. Tell Him that you open your life and heart to Him and to the truth.
Heavenly Father, I have sinned against myself, against others and against You! I need to know that You still love me and that Your still care. I need forgiveness God. I need to know the Truth! And I need Your power in my life to help me overcome the barriers that I have created between us. From this day forward I dedicate my life to You. I give myself to You. Body, mind and soul. Teach me Your Word Lord so that I may walk in truth. Help me and empower me Lord. Through Jesus Mighty Name I pray, AMEN!!!
The word (truth) is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart, that is, the message concerning faith that we proclaim: If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” Romans 10:8-11
If you have just dedicated your life to Christ I applaud your boldness and welcome you into the family of God’s children! Please find someone you can trust and tell them about your new-found faith in God. Prayerfully search for a Bible teaching and believing church so that you can meet others with your same desire to know the Truth. If you have and questions I will be more than happy to give you good Godly guidance.
God Bless You My Friend and Brother/Sister in Christ. I will see you one day in Glory!!!
This acronym for “You Only Live Once” has become particularly popular in today’s school of thought. The idea that one should go all out with no thought for tomorrow or the consequences of one’s actions is not a newfound or original initiative. Almost as old as history itself I would imagine. I too held to this belief for many years. I had no consideration for others, no deliberation about my actions and certainly no reflection on what had been done. These processes of thought would take way too much time from my daily affair with self-preservation. My central focal point was “ME”. Careful attention and attentiveness had to be paid to my habits, dependence and cravings. I truly believed that my short time here on earth was all I would have and my goal was to search out and acquire every pleasure that was physically obtainable. “You Only Live Once” resonated within me.
The truth is, YOLO is accurate, to a certain degree. Humanity will only get one chance at our life here on earth. We are created in a fleshly dwelling to physically live and die one time. The difficulty with YOLO is the agnostic theory that when you die it all ends. The notion that there is no life after death is atheistic in belief and is the backbone behind the well liked and fashionable YOLO premise.
Even the Bible clearly states that there is a time to be born and a time to die. (Ecclesiastes 3:2) But what happens after bodily death? Is there really an afterlife or do I just return to dust? Well, I thought you would never ask!
Almost every religion worldwide supposes on an afterlife. Most obtain their doctrine of where you will stand in the post mortem are obtained through what you did here on earth. If your good outweighs the bad then you are granted a pass to enter into the here after. The spiritual world will welcome your soul into eternal rest. Some religions are pronounced with harems of virgins for those unblemished souls who were fortunate enough to perform up to standard. Still others believe that you can meditate you way into a consciousness and oneness with your Creator and thus gaining access through the doors of eternity. The conflict with these outlooks and the YOLO standpoint is in the essential doctrine of how much good must one perform to obtain salvation.
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6
There are many religions in the world. There are many people who follow each religion. There are many who claim no religion at all. And there are many who are following the YOLO philosophy, not knowing that they have created a religion all their own.
YOLO’s approach gives no thought to afterlife. It also gives very little thought to life here on earth. The notion that you can do whatever you want with no consequences has been proven over and over again to be false. Go ask someone who is doing a life sentence in prison for intoxicated vehicular manslaughter or someone dying from HEP C because of intravenous drug use if they are paying the price for what they did here on earth. I think you know what they would say. They would tell you exactly where YOLO got them.
Another scripture for you:
Make no mistake about this: You can never make a fool out of God. Whatever you plant is what you’ll harvest. If you plant in [the soil of] your corrupt nature, you will harvest destruction. But if you plant in [the soil of] your spiritual nature, you will harvest everlasting life. Galations 6:7,8
There is a cost to be paid for every action.
So Brian, where do I go from here? I have done so much bad and I don’t want to reap the harvest of the seeds I have planted. If this is you, and you want to find freedom from the heaviness of the life you have created there is an answer.
My reaction to these questions was a heartfelt cry out to God as we know Him from the Bible. The only one that I know that could offer me more than peace of mind but could present to me salvation for my soul. Christ has promised us forgiveness of our sins, serenity for our soul, harmony with our Creator, strength when we are weak and an everlasting life with Him in Heaven.
An easy and effortless prayer can set you on the path to eternal and undying life with our Maker. If your hearts desire is to live not just in the moment of YOLO and make a positive change in your life, Jesus is your answer. If your desire is to break free from YOLO and have not been able to find the right path then Jesus is your way. If you are left empty and craving more out of life than YOLO then Christ can fill you. If your yearning is , “There has to be more to life than this” then Christ Jesus wants to complete you.
Please say this prayer with me. The words are not as important as the longing of your heart.
Heavenly Father, I have done things that I am not proud. I know I have done wrong in your sight. I want to find freedom from YOLO. Father, I ask you to forgive my wrongdoing through the blood of Christ who died for me. Wash me clean and give me a fresh start. Please help me to find the freedom I am searching for. I give my life to You God and I pray that you give me strength and show me the path that leads to everlasting life with You. Thank You Father. Through Christ Jesus my Lord and Savior I pray, AMEN
If you prayed that prayer from the heart for the first time or the fifty-first time I welcome you to the family of God. You are one of His children. You have just broken the grip of YOLO! And as a child of God you have certain unalienable rights such as eternal life with Him.
Chances are you may know someone who is a Christian. Seek this person out and tell them of your newfound faith. Tell them of your desire to serve the Living God. Find yourself a church and worship God in spirit and in truth. Get your hands on a Bible and let the Living Word began to transform your life by the renewing of your mind. And give thanks to God every time you think about Him. I promise that He is faithful and He will not let you down!
If you need some Christian guidance please feel free to leave a comment and I will do my best to point you in the right direction.
God loves you and so do I!